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Personal Development
fall 2021

A Winning Attitude

Success Is Equal Parts Dreams and Determination
Written by: Tabatha Claytor

I was moving right along in life, being a mom, wife, and pastor. I had goals: places to go and things to do! Life was fabulous, and I was enjoying all of it.


Coming from humble beginnings, I looked at every day as a gift. I grew up in the projects, experiencing all kinds of craziness like domestic violence, sexual violation, and alcoholism. I became a very conflicted young adult, diagnosed with depression. I tried so hard to turn my life around, but it wasn’t until I found faith in God that I was able to break free. Now I’ve been married for over 21 years, I have three beautiful school-aged children, and I spend my life encouraging others.


So getting the news that I had breast cancer at age 45 did not line up with the positive life I was leading. I exercised, took my vitamins, and ate healthy. For my 40th birthday, I had run a marathon. How could this happen to me?


I had to do some real soul-searching and determine how I was going to handle this situation. I decided I was going to make the best of the situation. I had been through tough moments in the past, and I survived them all. This too, I will survive.


You can do it!


I had to change my perspective. Cancer doesn’t mean death. People overcome cancer and go on to live normal, healthy lives. I’ve seen and heard of so many people who have beaten cancer and lived to tell their stories. I’ve decided that I am going to be one of those people—one who will overcome cancer and use it as proof to others that they can too.


The situation you face right now may not be cancer, but it could seem like death. You may not feel like you can recover from the loss of a loved one or a business failure, but you will recover. Your life will go on. You will overcome!


Let me encourage you: whatever happens in your life, you have the ability to handle it! You are the boss of your life. Yes, some things are out of your control. But you can control how you handle what comes your way. It makes all the difference: it can mean winning or losing.


For me, I’ve decided I’m a winner. When I look back over my life, I see someone who wins. Think about your life: there were difficulties, even tragedies, but you’re still here. You made it. You were born to be a winner.


In life, difficulties come; it’s how we handle the difficult moments that determine whether we win or lose. Let’s face today and every day with a winning attitude.


Tabatha Claytor is a pastor and co-founder of Alive Church—with campuses in Orlando and Gainesville, Florida—with her husband, Ken. She is the founder of PIO Woman, a ministry empowering women to live to their full potential. The Claytors have three children: Hannah, Charity, and Kenny.